When life feels like a steady upstream battle, and you don’t seem to be getting any closer to your goals, just remember this: you don’t have to do it alone.
You are surrounded by an intimate network of family and friends who have your back, as well as a broader network of colleagues, acquaintances and role-models, whose knowledge and expertise can benefit you. You just have to ask.
Asking for help can be terrifying. To reach out to someone, you need to let go of something that was holding you steady. You might not have been going anywhere fast, but that handhold seemed like the only thing between you and drowning, and it was something you could control.
It was also holding you back from moving forward.
Yes, it might be a leap of faith to let go and reach out for someone else. It’s scary to rely on others. It’s scary to think that we can’t do it all ourselves. It’s uncomfortable to relinquish control. But if we want to fly, we have to let go of the fear of falling. We have to trust that there will be wind under our wings.
So if you’re feeling stuck, . Reach out and ask for help. Accept what support is offered. Let go of the fear of dependence, fear of vulnerability and the fear of failure which are keeping you from soaring.
Help might not always appear in the ways you expect. It might be a literal hand, pulling you from deep waters….
It might be an
understanding shoulder to cry and vent on….
It might be a new professional, social or creative opportunity….
It might be the sudden, uncomfortable realization that what you thought you wanted, isn’t in fact what’s best for you….
Help is there. You just have to ask.
We spend our days giving of ourselves. We give to our friends and family, and we give to our colleagues and bosses. We put our emotional, physical and mental energies into making sure everything is running smoothly, into remembering to arrange that dinner, get that lightbulb fixed and meet that deadline.
How are we supposed to clarify what brings us purpose and joy, when we’re so focused on everyone and everything else?
By living constantly outside of ourselves, we can become disconnected from our truth and our power.
That’s why is important to take a break to reconnect with your own voice after dedicating so much energy giving it to others. Spending quality time with yourself is such a vital part of understanding your priorities, purpose and goals, and getting back in touch with your strength and direction.
Whether you journal, meditate, read, dance, or do yoga, take that time to retreat into yourself. Retreat into all the parts of you that need Love and Light, and give to yourself.
While it may sound counter-intuitive, you need to provide for yourself first, so that you can give more powerfully and focusedly to others. What can you do for anyone else if you’re scattered, exhausted and confused?
It’s okay to give to .
The energy that you dedicate to you is never lost. It strengthens you as you shine out into the world with purpose, meaning and impact. Retreat and surrender are the first steps to spiritual growth. It can only come from within.
Some days, you just have to be able to see the world from a different point of view. Maybe even turn it upside down🤸🏻♀️
There are so many things which are simply not within our control: other people’s behavior, events that happen to us, even the weather! But there is one thing that is always within our power: PERSPECTIVE.
If we come at life from the right angle, most everything can be seen in a positive, or at least a constructive, light. What have we gained today? How have we been strengthened today? What have we learned?
Changing the way we look at things is the key ingredient in our spiritual and emotional growth, in the magical and wonderful journey that brings us closer to ourselves.
Choosing to see the world from the perspective of love💛…Love for ourselves, Love for others, Divine Love…empowers us to grow from every little thing that happens to us, no matter how insignificant or negative it may seem on the surface.
If things aren’t going your way…
If it feels like the world is ganging up on you right now…
If the blessings seem fewer than the hardships…
Act on your power to choose how you understand the world🤔
Choose to see things differently 👀
Empower yourself by focusing on what you can control: YOUR PERSPECTIVE.
Pico Iyer, author of The Art of Stillness: Adventures of Going Nowhere, has said “Sitting still is a way of falling in love with the world and everything in it.”
Sitting still has always been a challenge for me. There seems to always be a mountain of distractions, both necessary and unnecessary. Pico Iyer’s book reminds me that sometimes to sit still is the most important thing in the world and yet the hardest thing in the world. I need reminding that sitting still is the most useful thing I could “do”
Take the time to breathe in and out; to sit in stillness and release; to open your heart and receive—in the whirlwind of our modern lives, making room for stillness helps us get back in touch with our bodies, our minds, our souls, our world and everything in it.
🛑 If you’ve read up to here, STOP. Don’t click, don’t scroll.
Put your phone down and turn away from the screen.
Close your eyes.
It would make me so happy to know you sat still.
Let’s sit together. 🧘🏽♀️
According to Vedic texts “ĀĀ .”
Why do we do what we do? Why do we struggle to achieve things that don’t bring out the best in us? Why do we struggle to fit into societies and situations that don’t bring us joy? Whose criteria do we measure our success by?
Today we exist in a world of appearances and influences, where the treatment and respect we receive depends on our ability to conform effectively, and we constantly compare ourselves with our perception of others.
It feels so important to belong and succeed that we forget what belonging and success really mean to us.
Often we find that our sense of fulfilment has nothing to do with how we are being told to live our lives and measure our success. The traditional path to traditional success is simply an illusion we buy into so that we can fit in effectively and easily. It stops us having to ask the difficult questions: what do I want? What brings me fulfillment?
We don’t need the latest tech, the expensive car and the fancy clothes. We don’t need the flashy apartment or the massive house. We don’t need the 24/7 high-powered job.
Look beyond the to find your Truth and your Joy. Look at your relationship with the people and objects in your life. Look at your relationship with your mind and your body. Look at how you are connected to the Universe in so many beautiful ways. Open yourself to the understanding that there is more to you, more to the world, than meets the eye.
Step away from the rat race, from the illusion of success and happiness. You’ll find the balance that enables you to flourish, that enables you to lead a fulfilling life of meaning and impact.
Living a life of meaning and impact is a balancing act. Challenges will be tossed your way but try to redirect life’s practicalities towards your Soul’s purpose. Remember, mistakes aren’t failures just stepping stones to your #dharma.
Be grounded enough to live with purpose and intentionality. Be creative enough to open yourself to the Universe. Build solid roots from which you can touch the sky. In fact, building roots takes time, focus and connection. It means knowing who you are, understanding where you’ve come from, and seeing your purpose in the world.
But once you trust the yourself and the Universe, finding balance between your roots and the skies may possibly reveal the key to living your best life!
It’s okay to need time and space. It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong, or that we don’t enjoy the people in our lives.
In order to achieve a state of yoga, one must develop both practice and detachment.
—Yoga Sutra I.12
When we detach, creating space, it’s simply that we need to re-align with ourselves, whether by reading, practicing yoga, dancing, appreciating nature or meditating, to better be able to embrace the world.
Are you attached to being seen?
That’s a funny question, and maybe has an obvious answer when asked on Instagram, right? That’s the whole premise of IG. Many of us or those we follow on IG post happy, photoshopped, artistically created, or professionally taken photos of lives, food, and activities that 95% of the time are just for the sole purpose to be seen.
Maybe that’s exactly your goal—to be IG-famous, to be an influencer, or to make it to the cover of Yoga Journal. But what’s behind that delectable stack of pancakes you had for breakfast or that challenging yoga pose you did on a boulder or those perfectly pedicured toes poolside on vacation in Bali? Did the right filter and snappy status-update project an image of a life far better than the one you authentically experienced?
Narratives (or “stories”) and creating images and video has shifted from simply sharing to performing. Have you found yourself working to create something interesting solely for your online audience, directing your actions towards the camera rather than authentically being in the moment? Then ask yourself this: Does your attachment to be seen show up somewhere else in your life? It’s interesting that our outer world often reflects our inner world. 🤔
There’s a delicate balance between performance, becoming yourself and being present. Performance in everyday life can take you away from your mundane context in a way that can offer up the image of you, but not the REAL you.
I bring this up only because I am guilty of this and am in no way judging others.
For myself, I noticed this more since taking a break from teaching which, in turn, put my usual posed yoga photos and inspirational or clever content on break as well. A few days ago, I said to Don, its been a while since I’ve put out a “yoga post.” Then I inadvertently pressured myself to create content so I could remain relevant and continue to be “seen.”
All this time, it was never my intent to be an influencer or a future yoga cover model. I just wanted to share my thoughts with, of course, a pretty or creative photo or video that pulled you in…so I could be SEEN.
But all you see is the outside. You get the narrative I want you to see or hear.
In yoga, specifically, in Vedantic philosophy, there are five #koshas or layers of our body that provide a framework for conceptualizing ourselves. In a way, this desire to be seen reveals just your first outer, physical layer—the Annamaya Kosha. This first layer represents your physical body (skin, muscles, bones, etc) but for a lot of people this first layer is where we spend the most time hanging out, locked in our physical senses—what we show to the world. Maybe even what feeds our ego. Or gets us lots of “likes” or followers.
Yoga helps us to create a track towards the deeper, subsequent and subtle kosha layers so they’re easier to access.
- Pranayama Kosha – Breath
- Manomaya Kosha – Mind
- Viyanamaya Kosha – Wisdom
- Anandamaya Kosha – Bliss
Asana prepares our body, yogic breathing draws you into the pranic body, and lastly, wisdom and philosophy provide tools to calm the fluctuations in the mind so that you can embody a state of bliss and liberation.
Obviously my deep thoughts on this aren’t going to change any of my future yoga posts. I’ll continue posting posts and content with no other intent but to share, inspire and guide. More importantly, I choose to be seen and share narratives that reveal my true self and not one created nor performed. And, who knows, maybe my posts assist you in tapping into your own koshas like they do for me.
In the meantime, enjoy this asana I did on a tree. Oh the irony.
Those aren’t marks of sweat next to my wrinkly foot…those are tears. 😥 The movers came yesterday so this morning I woke up knowing I had to practice in my empty living room that was once full of boxes and chaos.
I cranked up the music (@djtazrashid of course…shameless plug😜) so it echoed loudly in the emptiness of the house. I set my #sankulpa (#intention) of immense #gratitude and began practicing.
I could feel my first few movements unraveling stiffness and stress that’s been built up over the past few weeks. Then all of a sudden, I began connecting to my gratitude intention for our house and instead of hearing the music, I could hear many sounds of our family’s and friend’s laughter, conversations, and even arguments we’ve had in this home of 22 years.
That’s when the tears came. And when I looked down at them on my mat, I read the tattoo on my left foot “Love the life you live” and I have, in fact, loved the life I’ve lived in this home. I’ve loved every joy, every pain, every change, every growth, every laugh, every tear.
Thank you, home, for holding space for so much of our life. Although this transitional period is bittersweet and the next chapter our our lives is around the corner, I will embrace these last days fully present with where I am, where I’ve been and whom I’m with because I’m incredibly grateful for living a life I am in love with.🙏🏼🕉💜
In Yoga Sutra 2.33, author Nischala Joy Devi loosely translates this as “When presented with disquieting thoughts or feelings, cultivate an opposite, elevated attitude. This is pratipaksha bhavana.” .
Life comes with so many frustrations and challenges. How often does someone or some incident disturb your calm? Many of us naturally let our emotions take control and we most likely react in an unfavorable manner. Pratipaksha Bhavana is a simple way to redirect our minds toward calm and our hearts toward love. Simply change the story. Change your mind. Change your attitude. React from a place of compassion. .
Turn fear into opportunity. Turn challenges into blessings. Turn pain into joy. Use whatever you can inside and around you to reframe where you are in life. Barriers will always present themselves in ways we may not expect. But if we train the system to be ok with those times, thrive within them, and grow from them, you will discover that you are much stronger and more capable than you could ever imagine. Find your best self.